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yes_that_tonya) wrote2008-08-31 01:04 pm
yes_that_tonya) wrote2008-08-31 01:04 pm
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PLEASE READ: Help me help someone who desperately needs it
First, let me thank you for taking the time to read this. I'm going to put it right out there and say that this is a plea for donations. Not for me, but for a very close friend of mine who desperately needs your help. I am trying to raise $2,500, $1250 of which I need ASAP. I know times are very tough for everyone right now and I would never ask this for myself. Any amount gets us toward our goal, every dollar counts. So let me go ahead and put this up:
I have a very close friend that is truly the most remarkable person I have ever known in my life. The only person that is truly good through and through that I have ever met. She would never intentionally hurt another person. She is beautiful and smart and funny and honest. She doesn't drink or smoke or even curse. She is just GOOD and golden. She has 3 beautiful, smart, perfect children. When I met her, before I really got to know her and became friends, I thought she was too good to be true. When she talked and told stories about her kids and her life, I was sure that she had to be full of it, there was no way any of it could be true. But then we became friends and I met her kids. And it's all true. She's just an amazing person with amazing kids.
She also had an amazing husband. Like, when I think about the perfect couple, the couple I want to be, it was them. He's good-looking, smart, funny, considerate, thoughtful, giving, a good father to the kids, a hard-worker, going to school full-time and working full-time. They were the standard to which I aspired. They were together for 12 years of seemingly absolute perfection. I'm telling you, I wanted to be them when I grew up.
Well all of that is over. Things have been very difficult for them for the past year. She has very serious health issues which make it hard for her to work outside of the home, so she works from home as a private contractor, and one of her clients skipped out on a $1000 contract, which put them drastically behind and they've been trying to play catch up ever since. Her son is a brittle diabetic, a very serious condition that he has been hospitalized for a few times in the past year because they could not afford to get him medication. About four weeks ago, I took her grocery shopping because she could not afford to buy food and they were living off little more than a pack of ramen noodles a day. Their house has just begun the process of being foreclosed upon. Things are really bad, but they had just started to look up. There was light at the end of the tunnel and she could finally begun to see the way out.
Then just over a week ago, with no warning whatsoever, he left them. Just walked out on her and the 3 children he had been a perfect father to for the past 12 years. He said that he couldn't handle the stress and the pressure and the not having any money anymore. He's a coward and he just walked away. He left her with $8 to her name, needing groceries, no transportation, and a house in foreclosure that she absolutely cannot afford on her own. He left them stranded during Fay with no lights, no batteries, no groceries, no transportation (he took her car) and no phone, as they have Comcast phone and the lights and cable were out. Because of the stress of him abandoning them, her son had a diabetic episode and had to be rushed to the hospital. He was in there for 3 days, could have died, and she had no way of getting up there to visit him.
When she called me yesterday morning and told me this, I was shocked and numb and shaken to the core. I was just as devastated as if it had happened to me. Everything I thought I knew about the universe was proven to be untrue because of anyone that I know, she would be the absolute very last person I would EVER expect to receive that phone call from. He is the absolute very last person I would ever expect to abandon his family. But he has done a complete 180 to become someone I don't even know, turning his back on them in the worst way. She just found out 2 days ago that he also has a new girlfriend, something there was never any indication of before this. I'm angry and hurt and I've cried all that I can cry. But I know I have got to do something to help.
To complicate matters further, yes he took HER car and yes it is THEIR house, but her name is not on any of it, as she has been hiding from her psycho ex husband for the past 15 years. I have seen the court documents about him. He molested her two youngest children and terrorized them all after she left them. Stalked them, broke into her house, slashed her tires, you name it. It all sounds very far-fetched, very Lifetime move of the week, but I have known her for 10 years and it's all true. Right now she is screwed in the worst possible way. Even if she did have the money to try and save the house, it's not in her name at all and he could take it all away from her at any time. While she may legally have a leg to stand on, she wouldn't have they money to fight it at all. Because of her ex, her credit is shot. She has spent the last 5 years making her current husband's credit good and that's what they've been using. He took all of the bank cards and everything so that she has nothing. She cannot just go out and find a new place, even if she did have the money to do so. It's very bad.
Fortunately for her, she has had a really big stroke of luck in all of this darkness. In her neighborhood, there is a house that has been for sale for 3 years. On a whim, she called the owner to see if he would be willing to rent it. She explained her situation, her income and credit situation and he said he could work something out for her, but as the house is actually his wife's, he can only do so much. He has lowered the rent amount from $1450 to $1250 and been able to agree to just a deposit and first month's rent instead of deposit, first and last month's rent. He is willing right now to just take the deposit of $1250 to hold the house, and give her more time to come up with the first month's rent. The house has not been advertised yet, but they had been planning on doing that next week. With the work that she does and her other sources of income, she can afford this as it is way less than her current mortgage and she also would not have to worry about property taxes and homeowners' insurance, etc. And really, she is going to have to get out of her house anyway because it will be foreclosed. There's no way for her to save it by herself and since it's not in her name, he could just come later and take it form her anyway.
We don't have much time to get this deposit taken care of. I'm also on a personal fund-raising campaign on the phone, borrowing money wherever I can to help her out because I don't know of anyone in the whole world who deserves this less than she does. I cannot sit and let this happen to her. Please please please help me in any way that you can. If you have any kind of advice to offer also, please do.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and think of her. Prayers, positive thoughts, good wishes, mojo, whatever you have, whatever you can give, it's all needed right now.
I have a very close friend that is truly the most remarkable person I have ever known in my life. The only person that is truly good through and through that I have ever met. She would never intentionally hurt another person. She is beautiful and smart and funny and honest. She doesn't drink or smoke or even curse. She is just GOOD and golden. She has 3 beautiful, smart, perfect children. When I met her, before I really got to know her and became friends, I thought she was too good to be true. When she talked and told stories about her kids and her life, I was sure that she had to be full of it, there was no way any of it could be true. But then we became friends and I met her kids. And it's all true. She's just an amazing person with amazing kids.
She also had an amazing husband. Like, when I think about the perfect couple, the couple I want to be, it was them. He's good-looking, smart, funny, considerate, thoughtful, giving, a good father to the kids, a hard-worker, going to school full-time and working full-time. They were the standard to which I aspired. They were together for 12 years of seemingly absolute perfection. I'm telling you, I wanted to be them when I grew up.
Well all of that is over. Things have been very difficult for them for the past year. She has very serious health issues which make it hard for her to work outside of the home, so she works from home as a private contractor, and one of her clients skipped out on a $1000 contract, which put them drastically behind and they've been trying to play catch up ever since. Her son is a brittle diabetic, a very serious condition that he has been hospitalized for a few times in the past year because they could not afford to get him medication. About four weeks ago, I took her grocery shopping because she could not afford to buy food and they were living off little more than a pack of ramen noodles a day. Their house has just begun the process of being foreclosed upon. Things are really bad, but they had just started to look up. There was light at the end of the tunnel and she could finally begun to see the way out.
Then just over a week ago, with no warning whatsoever, he left them. Just walked out on her and the 3 children he had been a perfect father to for the past 12 years. He said that he couldn't handle the stress and the pressure and the not having any money anymore. He's a coward and he just walked away. He left her with $8 to her name, needing groceries, no transportation, and a house in foreclosure that she absolutely cannot afford on her own. He left them stranded during Fay with no lights, no batteries, no groceries, no transportation (he took her car) and no phone, as they have Comcast phone and the lights and cable were out. Because of the stress of him abandoning them, her son had a diabetic episode and had to be rushed to the hospital. He was in there for 3 days, could have died, and she had no way of getting up there to visit him.
When she called me yesterday morning and told me this, I was shocked and numb and shaken to the core. I was just as devastated as if it had happened to me. Everything I thought I knew about the universe was proven to be untrue because of anyone that I know, she would be the absolute very last person I would EVER expect to receive that phone call from. He is the absolute very last person I would ever expect to abandon his family. But he has done a complete 180 to become someone I don't even know, turning his back on them in the worst way. She just found out 2 days ago that he also has a new girlfriend, something there was never any indication of before this. I'm angry and hurt and I've cried all that I can cry. But I know I have got to do something to help.
To complicate matters further, yes he took HER car and yes it is THEIR house, but her name is not on any of it, as she has been hiding from her psycho ex husband for the past 15 years. I have seen the court documents about him. He molested her two youngest children and terrorized them all after she left them. Stalked them, broke into her house, slashed her tires, you name it. It all sounds very far-fetched, very Lifetime move of the week, but I have known her for 10 years and it's all true. Right now she is screwed in the worst possible way. Even if she did have the money to try and save the house, it's not in her name at all and he could take it all away from her at any time. While she may legally have a leg to stand on, she wouldn't have they money to fight it at all. Because of her ex, her credit is shot. She has spent the last 5 years making her current husband's credit good and that's what they've been using. He took all of the bank cards and everything so that she has nothing. She cannot just go out and find a new place, even if she did have the money to do so. It's very bad.
Fortunately for her, she has had a really big stroke of luck in all of this darkness. In her neighborhood, there is a house that has been for sale for 3 years. On a whim, she called the owner to see if he would be willing to rent it. She explained her situation, her income and credit situation and he said he could work something out for her, but as the house is actually his wife's, he can only do so much. He has lowered the rent amount from $1450 to $1250 and been able to agree to just a deposit and first month's rent instead of deposit, first and last month's rent. He is willing right now to just take the deposit of $1250 to hold the house, and give her more time to come up with the first month's rent. The house has not been advertised yet, but they had been planning on doing that next week. With the work that she does and her other sources of income, she can afford this as it is way less than her current mortgage and she also would not have to worry about property taxes and homeowners' insurance, etc. And really, she is going to have to get out of her house anyway because it will be foreclosed. There's no way for her to save it by herself and since it's not in her name, he could just come later and take it form her anyway.
We don't have much time to get this deposit taken care of. I'm also on a personal fund-raising campaign on the phone, borrowing money wherever I can to help her out because I don't know of anyone in the whole world who deserves this less than she does. I cannot sit and let this happen to her. Please please please help me in any way that you can. If you have any kind of advice to offer also, please do.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this and think of her. Prayers, positive thoughts, good wishes, mojo, whatever you have, whatever you can give, it's all needed right now.